Maybe no man is an island but this woman is.....and there are 2 little spear chucking natives on it and one big one. When I decided to have children, (those of you who really know me and are going "Decide my ass! I was there for the month of tears!") I did not decide to get knocked up but I did decide to have them. I had no idea how isolating it was going to be.
3.5 years later the island just keeps getting smaller, I thought it would have been the opposite. But we moved so that just made matters worse. I was part of a moms group for a while which was great, it got us out and kept me from burning the house down. I did meet a few mom's that if I really had the time I could be friends with. There just isn't any time to cultivate adult relationships while you are chasing an 18 month old, who puts everything in his mouth, around the play ground. I am sure if I had stayed with the group I would have bonded more with the other moms. ***Moments of being thrown under a blanket with another girl and tricked into stripping by a roomful of teenage boys just don't happen in adulthood (thank God for that) but this was the instant I became BFF's with that other girl under the blanket. (Sheri Orr Baldwin)
But then I became a "working" mom, you know with a job that I have to get dressed for everyday and take a shower and put on makeup for....its really not all its cracked up to be. The only good part is not being trailer park broke anymore. So now I really have no time to cultivate the minor relationships I did start to make w/ some moms I met, I still try but it's hard and slow going.
How can you be isolated at work all day? B/c the people I work with do not have small children. Even if I were to go to happy hour after work to try and get to know my co -workers I can't have a conversation with adults without kids. I have nothing to talk about that doesn't involve my children!
I was not prepared for this, why wasn't it in the "What to Expect" book? WTF people, I can't be the only one!
Chapter 1005: Expect to no longer have any friends.
1006: Expect your husband to be the only adult relationship you have. (You better actually like that Mother F*#$er. see chp. 1009)
1007: Expect to NEVER make any new friends. (So don't piss any of your current ones off. see chp. 1008)
1008: How to take the social hiatus required of parenthood and come back from the edge of solitary confinement.
1009: How to not murder your "soul mate" through child bearing. (If you skip this chapter you will need a whole different book)
The people I work with who have older kids do give me hope that one day I will have something to contribute again other than, potty training stories, funny things Alex says (which they could care less about b/c they don't know my kids) and the journey of finding a new pre-school.
3.5 years later the island just keeps getting smaller, I thought it would have been the opposite. But we moved so that just made matters worse. I was part of a moms group for a while which was great, it got us out and kept me from burning the house down. I did meet a few mom's that if I really had the time I could be friends with. There just isn't any time to cultivate adult relationships while you are chasing an 18 month old, who puts everything in his mouth, around the play ground. I am sure if I had stayed with the group I would have bonded more with the other moms. ***Moments of being thrown under a blanket with another girl and tricked into stripping by a roomful of teenage boys just don't happen in adulthood (thank God for that) but this was the instant I became BFF's with that other girl under the blanket. (Sheri Orr Baldwin)
But then I became a "working" mom, you know with a job that I have to get dressed for everyday and take a shower and put on makeup for....its really not all its cracked up to be. The only good part is not being trailer park broke anymore. So now I really have no time to cultivate the minor relationships I did start to make w/ some moms I met, I still try but it's hard and slow going.
How can you be isolated at work all day? B/c the people I work with do not have small children. Even if I were to go to happy hour after work to try and get to know my co -workers I can't have a conversation with adults without kids. I have nothing to talk about that doesn't involve my children!
I was not prepared for this, why wasn't it in the "What to Expect" book? WTF people, I can't be the only one!
Chapter 1005: Expect to no longer have any friends.
1006: Expect your husband to be the only adult relationship you have. (You better actually like that Mother F*#$er. see chp. 1009)
1007: Expect to NEVER make any new friends. (So don't piss any of your current ones off. see chp. 1008)
1008: How to take the social hiatus required of parenthood and come back from the edge of solitary confinement.
1009: How to not murder your "soul mate" through child bearing. (If you skip this chapter you will need a whole different book)
The people I work with who have older kids do give me hope that one day I will have something to contribute again other than, potty training stories, funny things Alex says (which they could care less about b/c they don't know my kids) and the journey of finding a new pre-school.
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